I Told Them How I Felt

“It made me feel loved that they were so willing to change.”

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Transcript for I Told Them How I Felt

There was a time when I felt like I didn’t belong when my friends went out to the movies to see ‘Magic Mike’ and I wasn’t invited because they thought it would be, I would be uncomfortable watching a show about men stripping while they love it. Just because I’m bisexual doesn’t mean I only enjoy women. I still enjoy men. I definitely talked to them about it and I told them how I felt and that they could still include me into things and they didn’t realize what they had done had hurt me so bad. It was completely okay, I accepted their apology. They have started including me in more things. We go to a club to Chicago on some weekends and they don’t think it’s weird when I start dancing with a guy. It made me feel loved that they were so willing to change. My mom and I did not get along too well because after she found out I am bisexual she thought that every girl I hung out with was a girl that I was dating and I was never allowed to leave the house without her and I was never allowed to have friends over who were girls. Going from a non-changing family at home to an atmosphere where people who barely even knew me at the moment were so willing to be my friend and be accepting of it.

  • Natalia Terzic

    It’s unfortunate how misunderstood certain sexualities and gender identities are. As someone who also identifies as bisexual, I understand the ignorance many people have when it comes to bisexuality and the annoying belief that bisexual people are truly only attracted to one gender rather than the multiple genders the label actually implies. It’s interesting to hear the experience of someone whose friends and family saw them as gay despite their bisexuality as my experience was the opposite, but it’s great to hear that your friends have come to better understand your sexuality and have been more inclusive and aware!